And that's the problem.

*His tail has drooped behind him, and even his wings are sagging.*

I don't mind you making off color jokes, that kind of banter can be fun. But it's not really banter if I can't respond in the same vein. At that point, it just ends up teasing me and making it hard to tell where I can go without bothering you.

That's why I'm being so cautious. I can't judge your limits by what you stop short of, since you're more comfortable saying these kinds of things than hearing them.